Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Busy With Books Of Late...& Stuff...

I've been reading a neat book lately, a gift from my Uncle in Saskatoon. Larry is a real success story, in family, life and business. He's always a huge contributor when it comes time to pulling family together. Larry and his wife, Gail, are very generous. They are Christians, in every sense of the word.

Golfing With The Master...
So, I open this envelope a few weeks ago and here it is:

Short chapters, interesting quips about the author's life playing golf. There are a number of scripture references of course, but there is a down-to-earth quality in the stories the author tells. I read one chapter inparticular a couple of times, and I want to include an excerpt from a chapter entitled "To The Dogs". Here goes:

1. Wag the right thing.
Perhaps a dog is called "man's best friend" because he wags his tail, not his tongue. Sadly, the golf course can be notorious for gossip. It can be a place where we tear others down. One of the best rules I've ever established for myself on a golf course is that if I talk about others, I will do so as if they are present. Proverbs 16:28 warns, "A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends." Wag the right thing.
- Phil Callaway -

Firstly, I think it's fair to say this fella knows of what he speaks. Secondly, I think I'm one, of many, who will be better served by giving Phil's "rule" a try.

Another interesting quote I found:
"Say "no" when you don't want to do something. Say "yes" if your instincts are strong, even if everyone around you disagrees. Decide whether you want to be liked or admired. Decide if fitting in is more important than finding out what you're doing here."
- Eve Ensler -

Well, I lasted five weeks.
Many weeks ago, I remember talking with Gay about all of the impending treatment and our life moving forward. I asked her if she wanted to have "the cry". She told me she already had.
Trouble is, I didn't.
Then yesterday...BANG!
It was unnerving, to say the least. That feeling where you cannot speak without falling apart.

I've been going into the Cancer Agency every weekday since September 18...and it is beginning to get to me. I have been healthy all of my life, which is very good fortune of course, but now I am learning more and more about mortality. And I am seeing it vividly through others who are absolutely suffering. The time spent in the "waiting rooms" is especially difficult these days.

Selfishly, I want to put the blinders on and ignore the other people, because their respective plights really do get me down. And I wonder how these feelings might begin to impact the 'fight" in me?

But, I know I'm just not wired that way. I cannot ignore someone who desparately needs to be heard, someone perhaps going through treatment alone. It doesn't happen everyday...the people change, some complete treatment, some are just beginning. And that is part of the challenge, I just don't know when these interactions might arise. I figure compassion simply has to rule the day!

But I don't know how ready I am for it. 

Just an aside here, but is there anyone out there who might have any expertience or insights into the challenges associated with migraines? I'm not having any issues of this nature at all, but the subject popped up the other day. If you have any reference materials or resource information, please drop me a line. Thanks. 


  1. Migraines.....I never had them until chemo therapy actually. One thing that helped me was acupuncture....and lavendar and peppermint essential oils. The last thing I wanted was more drugs! So I looked for alternatives. Hope this helps.

    Hmmm, I think I may be a blog stalker now. :)

    I hope your treatments continue to serve you well. We are human and as my daugther said to me on day..."it's ok not to be ok all the time"

    Stay strong! S

  2. Thanks Shelley...

    A couple tough days and some heavy lifting ahead. What a trek...

    "Blog stalker"...hilarious! But the first time I read it quickly to myself, it sounded like i said "rock lobster"!!

    Gotta be the drugs!!

    1. Hi Glen...Hang in their and be positive. The mind is a very powerful weapon.

      I was diagnosed in Nov. 2011 with Hodgkins Lymphoma. The hardest part was telling my children who came home for Xmas. My son was in his first year as a WHL player and to tell him was especially tough. He was only 16 and trying to assimilate himself in a big boys world.
      However, when I told him, he went to his room and must have looked up Hodgkins Lymphoma, because he came downstairs and told me I would be fine.

      What did I learn from my cancer:
      1.) Life is a gift and every day is like a new present to cherish.
      2.) The mind is a powerful tool, if you stay positive and keep stating, 'I am going to win' most likely will.
      3.) It reconfirms who you love and who loves you.

      Hang in there and every night tell yourself, I am going to win and then, lay down dreaming of your body killing the cancer.

      When Kamloops is in Kelowna to play and I go, I would love to meet you.

  3. Love you Dad! It's okay to be sad. But you are doing SO well! Keep kicking that cancers ass!

  4. Hey Mark...

    Thanks for the shout out, and the great advice! I can use it all!

    Yes, I know of Cole and his career with the Blazers.

    I'll guess I'll be away from crowds for a few more weeks, but will keep an eye on the WHL sked for Kamloops vs Kelowna. Big expectations for the Blazers this year, and they are certainly answering the bell so far! Will try to track you down in 2013!